June Goals {Free Printables}

Is it “officially” Summer yet? To me it is even though the calendar says Summer starts June 21.

I love seeing the flowers blooming, the lawn mower humming, and the sun shining!

The biggest for June is this is my last full month of chemotherapy! I will shout it from the mountaintops! Thanks to everyone cheering me on!

Now for a recap of May Goals and looking forward to June Goals:

Business & Finance

  1. May is a no spend month for our family. We have had several no spend months. Some successful, but even the not so successful end up being okay because we end up spending less than normal.  It has been really easy for us to eat out because of my lack of energy and “don’t care right now” attitude while undergoing chemotherapy. I am going to give our family some grace on this because Wayne works so hard at our business and Hannah works full-time and is a student full-time. We are doing a study at church about “Breaking the Yolk of Debt”. Its a reality check for us though. If we want to reach our financial goals, we must stick to a plan. We will use cash envelopes and only spend from the cash we have in our envelopes for our essentials. I have made our monthly food menu and eating at home is the main agenda.

We had a VERY successful no spend month! We were able to stick to our cash envelope system. We had a few days where we visited the drive thru for meals when I was too sick to cook and Wayne was too tired to cook. We were able to decrease our spending by 75%, put money in savings and tithe our full amount.

In June we will continue to use only cash envelopes. Our goal is to tithe our full amount, put an additional amount into savings to fully fund our emergency fund and decrease our spending by 75%. We will be going a few places in June that will require more eating out, but the times we are at home, we will be eating from freezer and pantry to decrease our grocery envelope spending.

2. This blog needs some love. I am scheduling a couple of hours a day to devote to sharing and inspiring! I have so many ideas to share with you. I hope you will stick around and connect! I will be starting a new series called She Can Do It! I will show you basic skills such as writing a budget, changing a tire, sewing a button, simple glazed cookies. We will have fun learning new things!

I didn’t quite accomplish She Can Do It! like I wanted. I am going to give myself grace while i am undergoing chemo. My body hurts and my brain can only take so much thinking. Its coming though I promise! I did add a lot of new content and updated posts.

I am happy to report that I was chosen by Karianne from Thistlewood Farms to review her new book coming out in September! She is a fabulous writer and I look forward to sharing my review of her inspirational story!

Family & Relationships

  1. I am so blessed for the family and friends that have supported me throughout My Breast cancer Journey.  Without their help, I would be lost. I have spent a great deal of time one on one with each of my family members. I am just going to love on them this month!

Wayne and I were able to get away for a couple of days and go to Ventura Beach and Solvang, Ca. I don’t have a lot of energy, but just driving and seeing the ocean was enough to recharge my system a little bit. Breathing the ocean air does a body good! 

I spent time with Hannah going to lunch and just talking about nothing and everything!

I always spend time with my Mom each day talking and we were able to go shopping a couple of times. So nice to do normal things once in awhile.

I had a very dear friend Cheryl come by for breakfast. She came at 9:00am and we talked until 1:30 in the afternoon! It was fantastic!

I hope to continue the momentum I have started with getaways and lunches and time with my friends and family. My Mom, Hannah and me are going to Las vegas for an overnight trip. I hope to grab Wayne and head out for an overnight stay or just a drive for the day. I cherish these moments,

2. I have a story that needs to be told. It is about my Dad and his untimely death. His death is heart-breaking, but I am determined to share his story so that it may help others. I am in the process of writing a book and will share the first chapter here on the blog this month.  I hope it will inspire you to write a Last Will & Testament/ Trust and an Advanced Care Directive.

I was able to write part of the first chapter of my book. I am also starting another book that tells of my Breast Cancer journey.

I will share the first chapter of the book about my Dad here on the blog. I may even need help with the title!

Health & Fitness

1. I am not setting any exercise or diet goals this month. My doctor  wants me to watch what I eat, but not deprive myself of any certain food. I have NO energy for exercise. My doctor wants to me to conserve all the energy I have. My goal this month will be to keep my positive attitude in check.  My prognosis is good and I want to do everything the doctor tells me to do.

I am losing about 2 pounds a week. Now in my former life (before BC, breast cancer) I would be jumping for joy. However, too much weight loss can affect my immune system. I am trying to eat healthy and simply care for my body.

I cannot wait to finish chemo in the first week of July. A celebration for sure!

She Can Do It!

  1. I have set a goal to read two books this month and I will share my reviews with you here. I am excited to read Unashamed by Christine Caine and Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst

Well…I didn’t read either book. Bummed. However, all is not lost. I read two other books this month. 

I finished the 28 day devotional and I can’t tell you enough about how life changing my perspective is on comparing myself to others. It was raw and stepped on my toes a bit. I will share more on this book in a review.

A biblical program offered by my church called Operation Solid Lives is another study I started in May. 

I hope to read Unashamed and Uninvited this month and share my reviews.

So there you have it! A few successes and a few misses. Overall a good month.

What do you want to accomplish this month? Print out the printables below and write down your goals and meet back here to share!

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Enjoy!

Why I won’t wish you a happy Memorial Day

As I scrolled through my Facebook page, a beautiful red, white and blue tablescape caught my eye. It was a post from Sandra Lee (television host, cookbook author). I recognized the tablescape from Between Naps on the Porch, a blog I regularly read. The headline from Sandra Lee read “Perfect tablescape for Memorial Day”. I started to read the comments and many read “Happy Memorial Day” “Can’t wait to get Summer started” etc. Sandra Lee asked “How will you be decorating your table for Memorial Day?”

I stopped and cringed (as I often do on Facebook… A story for another time). No offense to Sandra Lee as I am sure she probably doesn’t even write her own Facebook posts. I was more offended surprised by the comments on the post. Many, many people wrote about their plans, what they were going to eat, how happy Summer was almost here, how they decorated. Only a few people commented about what Memorial Day really means. I don’t think by any means, comments were meant to be insensitive or offensive. It’s a tablescape!

I won’t be offended if you wish me a Happy Memorial Day. For a lot of people, it is a happy day. School’s out for most. Weather is warming up. Three day weekend. Barbecues. Swimming. Camping. I get it. I celebrate all these fun things too! But there is more to Memorial day than fun.

I had a great visit with a good friend of mine, Cheryl. We had a great conversation about how sometimes people are just ignorant (not negative, just not knowledgeable) to how someone may react or don’t know what to say. The Sandra Lee post reminded me of this.

  • Memorial Day

A National day of remembrance to honor those who have died while serving in our country’s armed forces.

  • Armed Forces Day

A day of honor to those who are serving or have served in our country’s armed forces.

  • Patriot Day 

A National day of remembrance for those who perished on September 11, 2001.

  • Veteran’s Day

A day that honors all veterans serving or have served in our country’s armed forces.

I am privileged to be the wife of a disabled military veteran. My family includes a long list of veteran’s: father, father-in-law, brother, brother-in-law, cousins, Thank you to all who serve or have served.

We are having a barbecue on Monday. We are celebrating the warm weather and I will make sure my table is dressed. I will enjoy the company of my family for a happy day.  But, I will also take time to honor those who have died while serving this great country of ours. They paid the ultimate sacrifice so that we may enjoy the freedoms we have in this country. I hope you will take time to honor them too.

Step in Faith,

 

Are your coffee cups mismatched?

Have you ever been to a restaurant where all the plates, silverware and coffee cups are mismatched? Some call it “shabby chic” or “country”. I call it comfortable. I am pretty sure I have never had a bad meal at a place with mismatched dinnerware.

I was cleaning my kitchen one day and putting away all the clean coffee cups. I put the  cute, floral matching cups on display in my cup rack. All of the mismatched cups we had collected from vacations, garage sales or gifts from promotions all go up in the cabinet not to be seen by family and friends. Funny thing about this is when company comes over, they open the cabinet and grab any mismatched coffee cup and help themselves (I wouldn’t have it any other way).

Aren’t we like that though? Do we close the cabinet on our comfortable, authentic self? Do we just show the part of ourselves we want others to see and not the well worn parts of our personality?

I have joined a great group of women to study Comparison by Sandra Stanley.  I talked about it in my Goals for May

What I find intriguing about the study is that there are over 500 women who have joined the Facebook group. This just shows me that we are so much alike with our feelings of inadequacy and fearful of judgment from other women. We are constantly comparing ourselves and are quite critical of one another.

I shared a story of a time when Hannah was in elementary school. I had joined the PTA and was excited to meet other mothers. If you think high school comparison is bad, PTA has that and so much more. I have never felt more uncomfortable than hearing the constant jabs at other mothers. These were grown women who were supposed to set an example for not only their children, but other children as well. I am sure not every PTA is like this (thankfully). I held my head high and tried not to join in with the “clique”. The goal to serve was just as strong for me and I didn’t want “them” to hold me back. What I find sad is that I fear we will compare ourselves to one another all through adulthood.

Just for today, let’s show the world our authentic self. Give yourself grace. Be thankful for all that you are. Set an example for a young woman in your life. I know she struggles in a life of social media and peer pressure and television and magazines.

Just take time to just be you today!

Walk in Faith,

 

 

10 unexpected side effects of chemo

So happy to report that I am at the halfway point in my chemotherapy treatment. I have finished eight treatments and have eight more to go, I am nervous to continue just for the fact that my body is changing so rapidly and I don’t know what it’ll look like at the end of treatment. I am grateful though, to have a chance to heal and most of all grateful for the chance to live. I put together a list of the unexpected side effects of chemo. Some side effects may surprise you!

10. Dry Skin

I look like a lizard. or an alligator. or leather. I have to put lotion on several times a day. I think the chemo must dry your body from the inside out.

9. Sun Spots

I have sun spots in random places. Mostly my arms, but on top of my hands, under my arms and the under part of my fore arms. Its dark and patchy. Most people think it is a bruise. I have been told they will disappear after I end treatment.

8. Thrush

This side effect surprised me. I remember Hannah getting thrush when she was a baby, but it is very real for chemo patients too. My tongue swelled and was very irritated. It was difficult to eat. The only real relief was drinking cold drinks. It went way after a few days. Wayne bought me special toothpaste and mouthwash and that helped.

7.  Loss of Taste Buds

After a few treatments, food tasted different. Some food didn’t even have a taste. A couple of searches on “Dr. Google” and I found I wasn’t alone. Many people complain of loss of taste buds for a very long time. I do find myself salting and flavoring my food more. I don’t have the desire to eat some foods that I used to enjoy.

6. Forgetfulness

Some call it “chemo brain”. I will be in the middle of a conversation and the words just don’t come to me. I can’t even think of what I was going to say. It doesn’t happen often, but it is very frustrating and demeaning.

5. Collapsing Veins

Each week it is getting harder and harder for my blood to be drawn without digging around. It is very painful. I am lucky to have a port inserted for my chemo treatments. I absolutely hate to have blood  drawn from the top of my hand. I can only have  blood drawn from my left arm due to my lymph nodes being removed. Which brings me to number 4….

4. Loss of blood pressure and blood drawn from one arm

After my partial mastectomy surgery, six lymph nodes were removed. When lymph nodes are removed, there is nowhere for lymphatic fluids to drain through. Therefore, any increased pressure results in swelling of lymphatic fluids. For the rest of my life I cannot have blood withdrawn from my right arm or have blood pressure taken in my right arm.

3. Dry Mouth

My  mouth seems constantly dry. It may have something to do with decreased moisture from the inside of my body to the outside similar to having the dry skin. I keep water with me constantly even at night beside my bed. At least I am getting my water intake each day.

2. Diarrhea

A subject not everyone wants to hear about, but very much a reality.  Because of the increased risk of infection, i have to limit my exposure to germs which in turn means I limit my time at grocery stores, public places, restaurants, etc. Every meal usually results in diarrhea. Another great reason to drink a lot of water. (See number 3)

1. People Reaction

The number one unexpected side effect of not just chemotherapy, but of cancer in general, is of people reactions. I have found people fall into two categories, those that completely embrace you & step up to encourage you and those who put a wall up when the word “cancer” is brought up. I have had some very close friends who do not talk about the cancer, do not call or visit or become very nervous around me. I don’t blame them. I think sometimes when people are faced with mortality, they are scared. I try to give them  the space they need to absorb. I often find I am comforting them and I am okay with that. Who better to reassure them that God is in control than me? It takes me “outside” of myself to comfort others who may be uncomfortable.

My second half of treatment starts tomorrow and I am ready for the challenge. Wayne and I are going to take a little overnight trip to the beach this week. I think it is just what the doctor ordered!

Step in Faith,

  

10 Ways To Make Eating At Home Fun & Easy!

So I shared my monthly goals HERE and my top priority for May was to rein in our spending for the month on eating out. I am happy to report that a week into “No Spending Month” we haven’t deviated from our plan and I only spent $183 for all of our groceries FOR THE WHOLE MONTH. (Sorry to yell, but I was really excited about this!)

Here are 10 ways I make it fun and easy and not the boring and dreaded “cook every night same meal kinda thing”:

1. Freezer Crockpot Meals

About once every three months I will make freezer meals such as spaghetti sauce, chili, taco meat, etc. There are a ton of lists and recipes available online. Grab a friend or family member and make a day of it. Here are a few suggestions :

12-easy-freezer-meals-2-hours

Freezer Meals On The Cheap

7 Meals In 70 Minutes

30 Summer Freezer Meals

2. Plan your menu a week or month in advance

I have planned our menu for the whole month for at least 15 years now. It makes grocery shopping so much easier even if you go shopping every week, every two weeks or once a month. I take inventory of what I have on hand and plan the menus around my pantry and freezer and fill in with meals as needed. This saves time and money and takes some of the “what should we have for dinner?” thinking out of my day.

3. Snacks & Movie Night

We usually have snacks and movie night on Saturday or Sunday nights. Some nights its chips and dip and veggies with rolled lunch meat. Other nights I make something more. Calling it snacks somehow makes it seem like less work!

4.  Breakfast for Dinner

Enough said. There is something to be said about having pancakes for dinner!

5. Soup & Crackers

Or tomato soup and grilled cheese or soup and sandwich or soup and salad. You get the idea.

6. Bits & Pieces

AKA known as leftovers, but cut into smalls bits and pieces and served buffet style. Add little sauces next to your leftover bits of steak or meatloaf. Add a little cheese to the broccoli. My daughter loved bits and pieces night when she was younger. I think it was fun for the smaller bites and a variety of food.

7. Picnic On The Patio

A change of scenery from the dinner table always helps the meal seem more special. I love using the grill too. Saves with clean up. Everyone fixes their plates and brings it outside. A picnic on the patio is sometimes what is needed to just enjoy each other’s company without distractions.

8. Make It A Family Affair

There have been many nights when I just don’t want to make dinner (a lot lately) and I have just had to ask for some help. Let each family member pick one item to prepare and spend time together in the kitchen.

9. Salad Bar 

Many nights, especially in the Summer, its too hot to cook. You can pick up many pre-chopped, pre-sliced items at the grocery store. Often it only takes a little time to slice and dice and prepare a small salad bar with veggies, meats and cheeses. This way everyone gets the salad they want. Plus less heat in the kitchen.

10. Remember why you are doing this

I hung up a sign on the refigerator with our financial goals. It will all be worth it!!

Step in faith,

May Goals {Free printables}

Hi Friends! A long absence, I know. This chemotherapy treatment is not for the faint of heart. I never knew how hard and debilitating chemotherapy could be. I have finished the strongest chemotherapy treatment and am now on a weekly regimen with a drug called Pacitaxel (Taxel for short). The side effects are few (dry skin, bone pain and diarrhea…just keeping it real, but they are bearable).

Nonetheless, I have renewed energy and excited to continue on with some sort of “normal” life with writing my book, writing this blog, and running our business. In that spirit, I decided to make some goals for myself and share a few free printables so you can be inspired to set your own May goals.

Business & Finance

  1. May is a no spend month for our family. We have had several no spend months. Some successful, but even the not so successful end up being okay because we end up spending less than normal.  It has been really easy for us to eat out because of my lack of energy and “don’t care right now” attitude while undergoing chemotherpy. I am going to give our family some grace on this because Wayne works so hard at our business and Hannah works full-time and is a student full-time. We are doing a study at church about “Breaking the Yolk of Debt”. Its a reality check for us though. If we want to reach our financial goals, we must stick to a plan. We will use cash envelopes and only spend from the cash we have in our envelopes for our essentials. I have made our monthly food menu and eating at home is the main agenda.
  2. This blog needs some love. I am scheduling a couple of hours a day to devote to sharing and inspiring! I have so many ideas to share with you. I hope you will stick around and connect! I will be starting a new series called She Can Do It! I will show you basic skills such as writing a budget, changing a tire, sewing a button, simple glazed cookies. We will have fun learning new things!

Family & Relationships

  1. I am so blessed for the family and friends that have supported me throughout My Breast cancer Journey.  Without their help, I would be lost. I have spent a great deal of time one on one with each of my family members. I am just going to love on them this month!
  2. I have a story that needs to be told. It is about my Dad and his untimely death. His death is heart-breaking, but I am determined to share his story so that it may help others. I am in the process of writing a book and will share the first chapter here on the blog this month.  I hope it will inspire you to write a Last Will & Testament/ Trust and an Advanced Care Directive.

Health & Fitness

  1. I am not setting any exercise or diet goals this month. My doctor  wants me to watch what I eat, but not deprive myself of any certain food. I have NO energy for exercise. My doctor wants to me to conserve all the energy I have. My goal this month will be to keep my positive attitude in check.  My prognosis is good and I want to do everything the doctor tells me to do.

She Can Do It!

  1. I have set a goal to read two books this month and I will share my reviews with you here. I am excited to read Unashamed by Christine Caine

 

and Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst

  1. I am doing a Facebook Bible Study with Unskinny Boppy,  Jennifer Rizzo, Stone Gable, and At The Picket Fence called Comparison Trap. Looking forward to sharing all I am learning about comparing myself to others and how we can stop this trap we all fall into.

Now on to the May printables! I would love to hear about your May goals!  We are here to Share. Inspire. Connect.

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Step in Faith…